Be honest but non-accusatory about missing your friend. Say something like: “I miss our fun Friday night hang-outs! Do you want to get together again soon?”
It may be helpful to ask directly if the person misses you, but be careful about putting them on the spot. If they feel accused, they might not answer honestly.
Don’t ask about whether someone misses you only in order to make yourself feel better.
If your friendship is coming to an end, don’t obsess about whether your friend misses you. Instead, celebrate the good things the friend brought to your life and move on.
If the person is kind of popping in and out of your life to check on you, they’re probably missing you and wondering how you feel. That behavior is usually called “submarining”.
For example, you could say: “I’ve had a terrible day and I’m feeling pretty lonely and insecure tonight. Can you indulge me with some extra support and tell me that you love me and miss me?”
If it’s an ex-partner, see if the person is peeking through your profiles in social media. Liking and commenting on your posts, even though you’re not really close anymore, can sometimes indicate that they miss you. Presents are another way of demonstrating caring and engagement. Even if you don’t always love the thing a friend or partner got you, recognize that this, too, is evidence that they were thinking about you when you were not together. [6] X Research source If they are eager to tell you about the details of their boring conference or flight connections, recognize that it’s probably because they want to keep talking to you. Sharing mundane details is a way of maintaining connection across distance and shows that they miss you when you are apart. [7] X Research source
